Since it's TBT (throw back thursday) I'll attempt to make your lip ends curl up in a smile...
Bunch of years back (8 perhaps more)I have answered an ad on craigslist from a girl who needed a pretend friend that would allow her to have out of town alibi to her unsuspecting boyfriend whom she ended up cheating on while being out of town (our meeting and her ad was after the fact, after she already cheated, she met someone on her trip and for lack of better words she was trying to cover this up)..I was asked to basically pose as her friend while meeting her bf and her at a bar, so the bf has a name and a face to her companion on the trip. I was thinking, I can support her while she makes a mistake, not that I agree with the way she's handled it or anything, plus she was a stranger, after all, I was (in my opinion) just providing a kindness, that she, at the time needed. After all I have made mistakes, and then no one stood by me. I thought of it as helping someone cross the street, getting up from a fall, or just giving someone who is lost, directions.
Ok I know some eyebrows are raising at this point, but give it a chance :).
So I agreed to meet her about 30 mins before the boyfriend showed up to sync stories etc. What transpired was a really sweet meeting of a girl that didn't have a lot of friends as she was new to NYC and while we pulled the "stunt" off, their relationship didn't last. Rightfully so with secrets and all. However, this isn't where the story ends. Later that year or following year it's hard to remember, I received an email asking for my address from this girl (we have spoken and talked about hanging out but it never quite worked out) and later a wedding invitation followed.
As she was indian, I knew the wedding would be grand (at this point this was only my second indian wedding - since then I have worked or been part of about 30) so I said why not, it'll make for excellent picture opportunities. The wedding was in St Louis (not a town I recommend visiting) and it was wonderful. I could have really felt the happiness between them. I took photos and gave them to the happy couple as a present. The trip was expensive but I think worth the experience, and it only solidified my interest in Indian culture. Either way looking back at how something unfolds, is really a fantastic ride.
Moral of the story? Perhaps there isn't one. Or perhaps it is that you should help one if you can by allowing them to make a mistake so that they can grow and be better at the next venture/relationship. I won't pretend to know any of this. I go with feeling, energy quality and I felt she was someone who was innocent in many ways as well as a wonderful human being, who made a mistake she was honestly sorry for and didn't want to lose a loved one over it.
Yes, there were other ways of handling this situation, but I am not here nor was there to judge. You may say that I was part of something immoral, I may agree with you, but I also know that desperation of wanting to correct a mistake made, I know it intimately well. Most likely, this recognition of self is what drove me to help her in the way that she asked someone to help.
Keep rolling with the punches.